Step 5

“Admitted to God, to ourselves, and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”  

I  The Need for Admitting your Wrongs

This step is far more than just a confession: It’s an admission. We take ownership of our wrongs. By admitting to these mistakes, we take responsibility for what we have done. No one is to blame. But we are responsible for how we handle it.

A.  The exact nature of our admission

a) Admission to God – Reconnect

• Is there something in your life that has contributed to a disconnect with your Higher Power? Explain:                                    ___________________________________________________
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b) Admission to self – Acceptance

• Are there things that you have done that you would rather leave buried in the ground somewhere? What are those things?                                                        ___________________________________________________
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c) Admission to a trusted person – Honesty

• Is there a safe person with whom you could share your personal information? ___________________________________________________
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• Is there anything that you are not prepared to divulge to this person? What is it? ___________________________________________________
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B. The exact nature of our wrongs

a) Our will vs. God’s Will – a moral inventory

• Have you broken any of God’s laws? Are there spiritual laws that you feel you have ignored or overlooked? Explain.
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b) Our character defects – weaknesses / personal obstacles

• What kind of things do you struggle with? What are your fears? Who/what do you resent?
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c) Our selfish conduct – regretful mistakes

• Have you hurt anyone? What have you done to cause someone else harm? Have you stolen anything? Have you abused anyone? Be specific.
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II  The Benefits of Admitting your Wrongs

For years I tried to hide my addiction from others – from family, friends and relatives. I would lie about everything, even things that I didn’t need to lied about! It became a way of life; this web of lies was all part of my addiction. Admitting my wrongs ended the lies and the self-denial. It ushered in a new life style for me where I could tell the truth and be myself.

A.  Get Special Support

a) Acceptance

• Have you found someone ‘safe’ with whom you can share your story?
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b) Special intimacy

• Are you open to sharing intimate details of your life? Are you ready to experience emotional intimacy with another human being?
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c) Closeness of Fellowship

• Do you understand the support you will receive from your fellow addicts? Are you prepared for this kind of close fellowship?
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B.  Experience a Turning Point

a) A spiritual awakening – experiencing God

• As you prepare for the 5th step, are you aware of a spiritual awareness taking place in your heart? Explain:
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b) Feeling anchored in the program

• As you prepare for this 5th step, are you beginning to feel a little more part of the program? Do you have a better understanding of why the program works?
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c) Perfect peace / Self-Worth

• You have every reason to be afraid of revealing your soul to another. Don’t forget the words of wisdom: “You alone must do it; but you must not do it alone.” What does this statement mean to you?
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