Step 9

“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others.” 

The Rigors of making amends

A.  Be bold

a) Direct – face to face (wherever & whenever possible)

· Who? ________________________________________________
· Where? _______________________________________________
· How? _________________________________________________

b) Honest – acknowledge your part (this is about what you did)

· What you did (or didn’t) do to them ____________________________________________________
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c) Proactive – take the initiative (offer to do something)

· How will you make your amends? ____________________________________________________
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B.  Be careful

a) Motives – ask yourself ‘why?’

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b) Conditions – avoid injury to others (get permission)

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c) Humble – ask without any expectations

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II  The Rewards of making amends

A. Promise # 1 We will know a new freedom and a new happiness

B. Promise # 2 We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it

C. Promise # 3 We will comprehend the word serenity and know peace

D. Promise # 4 We will see how our experience can benefit others

E. Promise # 5 The feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear

F. Promise # 6 We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows

G. Promise # 7 Self seeking will slip away

H. Promise # 8 Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change

I. Promise # 9 Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.

J. Promise #10 We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us

K. Promise #11 We will realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves

L. Promise #12 The promises will always materialize if we work for them

Your own reflections on the promises: ____________________________________________________
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