FEAR: The absence of love
What is the opposite of fear? Would you say it’s courage? I used to think so. But as I considered it I realized that fear is an emotion and courage is an action. As far as I can tell, the opposite emotion to fear is love. Please let me explain what I mean.
The same way darkness is the absence of light, and cold is the absence of heat – so fear is the absence of love. Hot and cold cannot coexist; neither can light and darkness. Do you think that anger can coexist with peace any more than gloom can mix with happiness? Absolutely not! Similarly, fear cannot exist in the presence of love.
The Bible says, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear.” I John 4:18 Below, I have listed several characteristics of fear contrasting them with love…
1. Withholding Giving
2. Isolated Communal
3. Antisocial Relational
4. Closed Open
5. Shortage Abundance
6. Doubt Faith
7. Superstition Truth
How will you ever know how to love if you remain full of fear? How can you give if you are withholding? How can you be open and vulnerable with another person if you are closed and controlling? Fear is cynical, disparaging, and trusts no one; love is optimistic, encouraging, and full of faith. Love is an energy that fills the universe and holds all things together. If fear is removed from the heart, love rushes in to fill the void.
The only way for you to experience love is to remove the fear. And the only way to remove it is to let it go. Just let go, and let God. Fear is not something that overcomes you by sneaking up from behind and pouncing on you suddenly. You are not its captive, held hostage by forces beyond your control. Fear can be overcome by following these four steps: 1) Awareness: 2) Admission; 3) Surrender; 4) Affirmation
- Awareness: Develop the conscious awareness of fear in whatever form it may appear (isolation, procrastination, withholding, etc.)
- Admission: Come out of isolation and admit to another person the nature of your fear.
- Surrender: Turn your fearful thoughts over to the care of God. Let go of your obsession with the past and the future, and remain in the present moment.
- Affirmation: Take time to repeat out loud the truth about yourself. This will help to turn on the light of truth in your soul