Imagine that you’re behind the wheel of a powerful BMW. You’re trying to drive up a muddy hill in the rain. Unfortunately, the car has rear wheel drive, and you’re having a hard time getting it to move forward. You’ve been spinning your wheels for over an hour, but to no avail. The more you ‘floor’ it, the more your tires spin in the mud. In fact, you’re beginning to wear deep ruts in the muddy surface. So, you do the only thing you know how to do: You gun it even more!
Eventually, one of the rear tires is completely buried in the mud. The frame of the car now rests on the wet surface of the hill. You finally realize you can go no further. You’re stuck. And you need help.
Have you bottomed out yet – or are you still digging?
I tried for years to wrestle my addiction to the ground, but I couldn’t do it on my own. The harder I tried, the worse things got. “Bottoming out” is when I stopped digging. I’d lost everything, and my marriage was crumbling. It wasn’t until I’d had enough – digging in that hole – that I finally gave up and asked for help. I wanted out. But I knew I couldn’t do it on my own.
The first step of our recovery begins when we admit we are powerless over our addiction, that our lives have become chaotic and unmanageable. At this point – when we admit to our powerlessness – it’s time to get help. And we decide to put our faith in a Higher Power.
God will never take away your ability to choose freely. That is why bottoming out is so important, so pivotal. When you decide to stop trying to get ahead on your own steam, you are then able to look up and begin climbing out of your hole.
Everyone has their own ‘bottom’ – a point at which we decide to stop digging. Free choice means we decide when enough is enough. Some addict’s ‘bottom’ is death, and that is their choice. God is there, waiting for us to ask for help.
Are you ready to stop digging and reach for the rope that is extended to you from up above? Climbing out of your hole is the wise thing to do. When you combine God’s will with free choice the result is wisdom. There’s only one way we can succeed: Freely choose to let go and let God.
You must choose to stop digging and start living.