“How do you know when you’ve hit bottom? When you stop digging!”
Imagine, if you will, that you’re in the driver’s seat of a powerful BMW on a muddy, uphill slope in the rain. Unfortunately, it has rear wheel drive and you’re having a great deal of difficulty getting your car to move forward. You’ve been trying for over an hour to get up this slippery hill but to no avail. The more you ‘floor’ it, the more your tires spin in the mud. In fact, you’ve been at this for so long that you’re beginning to wear deep ruts in the muddy surface of the trail. So, you do the only thing you know how to do: You gun it even more!
As a result, you sink deeper and deeper until the frame of the car is resting on the wet surface of the hill, and one of your tires is completely buried in the muddy hole you have created. You finally realize that you can go no further; you’re stuck. And you need help.
This is what is meant by “bottoming out.”
This is the point at which I bottomed out. I tried for years to wrestle this addiction to the ground, but I couldn’t do it on my own. Bottoming out is when I stopped digging myself further into a sizable hole that I had already started. I’d lost everything and my marriage was crumbling. It wasn’t until I’d had enough of digging in that hole that I finally gave up and asked for help. I wanted out and I knew I couldn’t do it on my own.
The first step begins when we realize that we are powerless over our addiction, that our lives have become chaotic and unmanageable. At this point we decide to ask for help. When we admit to our powerlessness it means that it’s time to put our faith in a Higher Power.
But God will never take away our ability to choose freely. That is why bottoming out is so important, so pivotal. When we decide to stop trying to get ahead on our own steam, we are then able to look up and begin climbing out of our hole.
Everyone has their own bottom, the point at which they decide to stop digging. Free choice means you decide when enough is enough. Some addict’s ‘bottom’ is death, and that is their choice. God is there, waiting for us to stop trying so hard and ask for help.
Are ou ready to put down the shovel you’re digging with and reach for the rope that is extended to you from up above? Wisdom would suggest that climbing out of the hole is a good start. When we combine God’s will with free choice the result is wisdom. There’s only one way we can win; freely choosing to let go and let God.
You are free to choose in this life; choose life and choose freedom.