I never thought I wanted to be right; I just knew I was!
I had all kinds of opinions about others based on their appearance, what school they attended, whether or not they went to church, their nationality… (and on and on.)
But the older I get, the more I realize I have a lot of opinions of myself. Call them beliefs. Or convictions. There are things about myself that I have decided are true.
“I am a good writer. I am a lousy speaker. I am an okay singer. I suck at math. I am an addict”
Unfortunately, many of them are not true at all. But I am convinced that these long-held beliefs accurately reflect who I am and what I am capable of…
I’m willing to bet that you are just like me. How do I know? Because you (and I) are the product of our own thoughts and feelings – beliefs – that started forming the day we were born.
When you were a child, you relied on the opinions of others (teachers, parents, coaches) to form an opinion of yourself. What you experienced in life often confirmed what you believed about yourself. And you constructed a set of beliefs that gave you a sense of self – something on which you could base your decisions.
If you are like me, (and I know you are), these beliefs about yourself are hard-wired into your psyche. There’s no one you know who is going to change those opinions and long-held beliefs that you have of yourself.
Can I suggest something? Why don’t you start with the most limiting belief you have of yourself, and turn it around? Start acting and speaking to others as if the exact opposite is true.
What do you have to lose? Who knows? Maybe you’ve been wrong about yourself all these years. Maybe you’re not the person you think you are!
Do you want to be right? Or do you want to be happy?