Acceptance: Putting an end to resentment
It has been said that resentment is a poison you swallow while you wait for the other person to die. Resentment may taste delicious when we swallow it, but it eats away at our insides causing our bodies to break down.
There is a connection between body, mind and spirit. The body is more than just a machine; it is powered by the mind. And the mind is more than just a brain; it is powered by the spirit. If you shut off the supply of strength from the Source – (the Universal Mind, God) – your mind begins to spiral downward into darkness and insanity. As a result the body is full of darkness and suffers as a result.
When your intentions are to lash out and hurt somebody, you are the one who suffers the most. This is how we swallow the poison of resentment: Thinking and speaking words of bitterness and hate aimed at another. Make no mistake; the words we think and feel and speak are like a poison that slowly spreads into our lungs and our major organs, traveling through our arteries eventually reaching our limbs and outer extremities.
In order to put an end to resentment you must see it as a poison, not a pleasure.
When an addict begins recovery he/she must start at step one: “We admitted we were powerless over (the addiction), that our lives had become unmanageable.” Many alcoholics reach a point where they realize that the alcohol is no longer bringing pleasure. In fact, the reason they enter into a recovery program is because of the suffering that their addiction to alcohol is causing them and their loved ones.
But resentment, like alcohol, is not that easy to just walk away from. Giving up resentment is like trying to give up cigarettes; it can really get a hold on you. And medical treatment or psychological analysis is not going to stop it. That’s because it’s a spiritual problem, and spiritual battles must be fought with spiritual weapons.
Oddly enough, these weapons aren’t really weapons at all, at least not in the way we normally think of weapons. They are more like tools – ways we can maintain sobriety. And, like any tool, they aren’t much good unless you use them. The tools of a recovering addict are: 1) Sobriety; 2) Sponsorship; 3) Steps; 4) Service. The heart of the program is the Steps – the 12 Steps.
The promise of the 12 Steps is a spiritual awakening. This ‘awakening’ is how a recovering alcoholic begins his/her recovery; and ‘service’ (the 12th step) is how the alcoholic keeps it. Resentment can be conquered only by looking at it squarely, in the face. No sugar-coating, and no minimizing. And action (the 12 Steps) is required to bring about a spiritual change and an end to resentment.
Tomorrow’s topic – Acceptance: Accepting responsibility