Have you made the commitment necessary to begin the program by setting your bottom lines? If so, there are certain things you need to do that will ensure you stay committed. And you will need to do them consistently.
In order to set your bottom lines, you will need to make five lists:
- Destructive behaviors
- Addictive patterns
- Accessory behaviors
- Bottom line behaviors
- Healthy behaviors
This may seem like a lot of work, but it is just the beginning…
This process will cost you. And one of the things that you will need to provide is your time and attention to this procedure. You spent precious hours, day after day, in your addiction – planning, obsessing, and compulsively acting out… obsessing again… over and over. You spent your money, you spent your time and energy…
And all your time and energy will need to be spent in recovery if you ever hope to get your sanity back. Here’s what you need to do…
Destructive behaviors: You have addictive behaviors that made you realize your life is spinning out of control. You will make a list of your past behaviors that have proven to be destructive.
Addictive patterns: When you review your addictive behaviors, you will see certain patterns of behavior emerging. Using your list of destructive behaviors, try to identify your personal addictive patterns.
Accessory Behaviors: Daily habits are powerful – perhaps more powerful than we realize. For an addict, these habits show up as accessory behaviors, things we do almost without thinking. Define the habits (accessory behaviors) that need to be monitored.
Next week we will take a look at another list that will help to gain ‘clarity’ in your recovery.