The Four C’s: Feeling Confident (Part 2)

There are 2 tools that will help you gain clarity and increase your confidence moment by moment:

  1. Gratitude
  2. Acceptance

When you choose to be grateful for this moment, and accept what is, you will have tapped into the Source of power that is available for everyone – addict and non-addict alike.

Gratitude for things that are unpleasant – unwanted moments and people – is the key to your sobriety.  It is the practice of gratitude that will help you to accept the ‘perfection’ of each and every moment in which you find yourself.

Acceptance is not to be misunderstood with resignation.  To be resigned to a certain circumstance means you have given up, but it does not mean you have come to accept it.  Resignation leads to disappointment, anger and resentment.  Acceptance, on the other hand, leads to serenity because it lets go of what isn’t and makes room for what is.

By using both these tools – gratitude and acceptance – you can empower and enable yourself to clearly identify wholesome and healthy behaviors.  These two powerful attitudes allow you to examine your destructive and addictive patterns and choose healthy patterns that will keep you out of harm’s way.

Here are some examples of healthy behaviors:

  • Journaling
  • Working the 12 Steps
  • Prayer and meditation
  • Calling program members
  • Using positive affirmations
  • Attending 12 Step meetings
  • Going to fellowship after meetings
  • Calling my sponsor before I engage in slippery behavior
  • Taking care of myself – health and cleanliness
  • Getting outside for fresh air and walking
  • Taking a class in something interesting
  • Learning to say ‘No’
  • Eating healthy food
  • Getting lots of sleep
  • Routine exercise
  • A new hobby

Make your own list of healthy behaviors and activities that you know will help you stay on track with your recovery, keeping you focused, motivated and confident.